Self-Discovery

Here is an outline for the Belief Assessment Interview. It is based on the three principles that a prospective Get Help Get Active client can use to see if he qualifies:

The Three Principles:

  • I am struggling financially.
  • I have a mind-based habit of low self exertion.  I tend to give up too easily when it comes to either working or looking for work or studying to improve my job skills.
  • I want to change, but it seems really difficult.

Overview:

The purpose of the interview is too help you to make the connection between your time-management choices and your career and life outcomes. We will be exploring the inner motivations and thought-processes that lead you to make decisions. Our hope is that by looking at your own answers to these questions, you will gain some insights that can help you to become a more successful and focused person.

Interview Questions:

  • Part of my problem is that I have a mind-based habit of low self exertion.
    1. What are the other parts? Bad economy? School? Parents? Illness? ADD? Depression? Politicians? Community?
    2. Am I shifting blame around? In what specific ways?
    3. Is there a natural human tendency to shift the blame?
    4. How does my habit of low self-exertion affect my daily activities?
    5. What would my day look like if I could break free from low self-exertion?
    6. Political correctness. Does the media avoid the topic of self-exertion?
    7. Are there “players” in our society that have a vested interest in keeping people inactive?
    8. What is the difference between low self-exertion, reasonable self-exertion and workaholism?  Which one of these three have I been closest too?
  • I regret the time that I have wasted.
    1. What is regret? Is it appropriate at this point in my life?
    2. What is shame? Are there some types of shame that are healthy & some that are unhealthy?
    3. Is pain sometimes a good thing?  For example, does pain sometimes give us healthy feedback?
    4. If I had been only reasonably industrious, how would my life be different today?
    5. Please describe people in your community or family that are not affected by the habit of low self-exertion.  How are they different from you?
    6. Lets imagine that it was possible to hire someone else to run my life for me.  Now, suppose that I actually did hire someone to run my life for me, and they did the same “job” that I did in the last week.  Would I be happy with their work?
  • My habit of low self-exertion has hurt me financially.
    1. How much money did I make in the last week, year, 5 years, 10 years?
    2. How much might I have have made if I had just been reasonably diligent?
    3. Is it important to me to become self-sufficient & happy in my career?
    4. How important of a factor is the low self-exertion?
    5. Some children are really pushed by their families. Is that appropriate?
    6. Is America really the “land of opportunity?”
    7. Some immigrants to America become very successful. Why?
  • I want to change, but its not happening.
    1. Humans have a nervous system, a skeletal system and a circulatory system. Do we also have a “belief system?” What does that mean to me?
    2. Other systems can be affected by disease. Can the belief system suffer from a disease?
    3. Could low self-exertion be due to a disease in the belief system?
    4. How can a disease of the belief system be treated? Change in world-view?
    5. Do my heros (the people that I listen to in the media) encourage a realistic world-view?
    6. If not, then why am I attracted to listen to them? Is there an ego-feeding or ego-soothing aspect of blaming others for my troubles?
    7. When a person changes their behavior, (but there is no change in their world-view), then do they run a risk of reverting back to their old behavior?
    8. I know that having a personal coach is a good way for a person to stay motivated.  Am I willing to accept free help – to help to keep myself on track?

Failure-oriented beliefs. Do these statements reflect your views? If so, then are they really an accurate description of reality?

  • It is impossible to succeed in this town.
  • The system is set up to keep the little guy down.
  • The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
  • I am stuck in this bad job (or school) and there is no way out.
  • What is the use of trying?
  • With my work history I am sure that I would never be able to find a good job.
  • I can’t find a job because I don’t have a computer, so I can’t go on the internet.
  • I tried to learn [fill-in-the-blank], but it was just too hard for me.

Success-oriented beliefs. Do these statements reflect your views? If so, then are they really an accurate description of reality?

  • God helps those that help themselves.
  • I know that I will be successful if I keep on trying.
  • People don’t fail, they give up.
  • Triumph is just “umph” added to try.
  • Hard work is the yeast that raises the dough.
  • Action brings good fortune.
  • If you think education is expensive, then try ignorance.
  • Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.

Charitable Giving

Do you currently receive some kind of charity?  (Government-based/Private/Family) If your answer is “Yes”, then what is the best charity to which people could donate money in order to most effectively serve a person like yourself?

If you do not currently receive any charity, then, have you in the past received some kind of charitable help?  If yes, then, in the past, when you were previously receiving charity, then what would have been the best charity that a person could have donated to in order to have most effectively served a person like yourself?


Download an edit-able version of this page:

You can use one of the following links to download an edit-able version of the questions on this page.  Then use your favorite editor to enter your own answers and print them out.  This will help to move things along at the first meeting with your Get Help Get Active volunteer.

17 Responses to Self-Discovery

  1. full_time_80 says:

    I went through this interview. It was an eye opener for me.

  2. fulltime_80 says:

    My other comment must have been lost. Anyway, there was a grammatical error in question six under the subheading ‘I want to change, but its not happening’ in the above article. (‘a’ ego should be ‘an’ ego…:)) Anyway, as far as the success oriented belief ‘Education is expensive, try ignorance,’ remember that education does not come necessarily from college. How about hands on training from generation to generation, on a farm, on the job, as a housewife, vo-tech, and so on

    • adpal says:

      Thank you for pointing out the error – I fixed it. Please feel free to mention it if you spot anything else that might be out of kilter. 🙂

  3. Anonymous says:

    I suggest thisquestion b added: ask a lazy person if they are satisfied with their productivity level for that day week month year.

  4. tbear says:

    i myself went threw this interview and it helped me in the long run thank you get help get active

  5. PAL says:

    Needs to be added: many ppl live hand to mouth. How much of a prudent reserve should a reasonable person maintain? 6 months of normal expenses is one figure that I have heard. Have you maintained that PR? (Probably not.) If not, then why not? What is an individual’s personal responsibility to provide insurance against becoming a charity case to the community? For example – is a 6 month PR sufficient to discharge my duty to the community?

  6. PAL says:

    Add this in as a question:

    Reasonable Self-Exertion (RSE) and the Comfort Zone

    There are energy exchange inefficiencies (EEI) (aka: low paying jobs) that we tend to prefer to put up with (rather than attempt to correct) until the pain becomes great enough. Part of RSE means that I have to honestly ask myself: What is the best point (and it is probably somewhere out there on the perimeter of my Comfort Zone) on which I can focus my limited emotional energy in order to get the biggest bang for the buck in terms of addressing my current EEI? Am I achieving RSE in this realm?

    If not, then what is up with that? That would have to mean that I am bailing out on a sincere approach to life.

    What it boils down to is: Part of my job (in terms of running my own life) is to be the Worker – and part of my job is to be the Director. If I am willing to be the Worker then that is great, but if I am not willing to also be the Director, then that means that the unaddressed EEI will continue …

  7. Ideas says:

    Add: does everyone exert themselves equally?

  8. Ideas says:

    Add: Does everyone concentrate equally “hard”?

  9. The Self-Control-Ability Profile 3

    How do you divide your time, energy and resources?  There are, for all practical purposes,  an unlimited number of things which we would each be responsible to accomplish – if we had unlimited time, manpower and resources.  But our resources (particularly time are finite.). So most people solve this by just picking a handful of things out of the whole range and focusing our attention there.  Presumably, these are the “important” things… but we all know how meaningless stuff tends to creep up to the top of the todo list too.

    You have to pick a limited number of things to focus your energy on – otherwise if the number is too high then it becomes evidence of a mental disorder bcz you would never have time to complete any one task or to become proficient in it.  So people generally limit themselves to 10 or 20 different task categories and divide their time there.

    The SCP asks three question: 

    1.  As Best As You Can Tell (ABAYCT), what are the 10 or 20 task categories that you consider to be your true priorities – given the limitations of your circumstances and health and resources?

    2.  ABAYCT, what is the Distribution Of  Your Time Energy & Resources (DOYTE&R) that you should be and could be (under only RSE) applying to these 10/20 task areas?

    3.  How closely does the DOYTE&R match #2?  That is the SCP.

    When the SCP varies from #2, then we eventually experience Self-Inflicted Negative Consequences (SINC). However, because of the distant Pay-Off Horizon (POH) of many of these SINC, there is no clear feedback to keep the life system on track.  Really it’s due to a lack of faith?

    Self versus Government versus Religion versus Society

    There are several different entities, each of which has its own 10 or 20 tasks which it thinks you should be focusing on – and would therefore come up with its own estimate of your SCP. So the one that we are talking about here just focuses on your own personal estimate of your own responsibilities that you believe can and should be met by yourself under RSE. This point is necessary because one of the main objections to this whole concept is to say: “Well, who are you to tell me what I should or should not be spending my time on?!”

    Slavery versus the SCP

    How does the SCP differ from Slavery?

    AMD = Pride, Dementia and an Incorrect View of the Importance of Freedom

    How is this a solution?

    PAL as a Solution to Gaps in the SCP

    How is PAL a Solution?

    This reminds me of “The Road Less Traveled”.

    • How do you divide your time? First chart shows a pie graph of a 24 hour day. Then 30 pie charts to represent a month. Then a skyline to represent all of the tasks that you feel that you ought reasonably to be engaged in using only rse and given your unique circumstances, environment and your physical and mental health. (this will be 10 or 20) Overlapping with a skyline of what tasks you actually engage in. (another ten or twenty). And a much broader spectrum show all possible tasks that you could be engaged in.

      A sick person has a responsibility to use his remaining compromised health in order to seek out resources to help him to get healthier.

      Some people will claim that responsibilities do not exist. But this might just be an angry response to the misunderstanding that they think that I am trying to tell them what their R are – which I am not doing.

    • PAL says:

      Another angle on the SCP -> There may be some responsibilities that a person knows that they have, but it just seems to be too overwhelming to even start. So they could use that as a rational to quit entirely. In reality it may be that there are intermediate steps which are much more manageable, which the individual could address with RSE. So the “I will just quit entirely because the final responsibility is too overwhelming” rational could then be (disingenuously) stretched to include “I’m not going to work on the more manageable intermediate step, either.” But that would just be a lie that a person is telling themselves.

      This reminds me of the old proverb: “Start where you are.”

      OOP DIAGRAM: So I think that the comparison of these two responsibilities (the final one and the intermediate one) could make a nice graph.

  10. Anonymous says:

    Plz tell me who I should give charity to? Bc I want to avoid cases in which it will go to ppl with AMD.

  11. PAL says:

    Question for Discovery

    What is the charity that I should donate to which would best serve people like yourself?

  12. PAL says:

    Add this question: What is a charity that you would recommend that I support financially in order to be a blessing to you? (In order to prove to you that I am not greedy – and that I am truly a good person who wants to help the poor.) [they give an answer]. Then ask: Why not, instead I directly give the money to you – rather than going through them? [Problem comes up in that client realizes that I will ask them to work for the money – which may be less efficient than them just getting the resources directly from a charity that will not ask questions.]

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